5 Things every new mom should know

I have been a mother for a whole 8 months and while I am a rookie at this thing called motherhood, there are many lessons that I’ve learned in the last 8 months that I want to share with you.

I absolutely love being a mother, it is such a gift that I do not take lightly. I consider it a blessing to be trusted with these children and my highest calling. From the moment I found out I was pregnant, I made a commitment to operate in complete peace of mind. Pregnancy is completely different for everyone, and while I heard and read everyone’s journey – I was determined to make my journey my own – completely peaceful and stress free (especially external stress) and I did just that.

Now that I have just crossed the 8 month mark as a mother, looking back here are some things every new mom should know:It does get better. I wish I listened to my friends and family when they told me this truth. During the early months of my pregnancy while my body was adjusting to the changes or even later on during my pregnancy when it got “worse”, I was constantly reminded that it does get better and let me tell you – it really does. Never in a million years did I think I would be here. I remember telling my husband over and over again, that I didn’t think I would make it because twin pregnancy was hard but here I am. I’ve lived to tell another mom to be that indeed, it does get better.

The first few months will fly by.

Dear future mama, enjoy your babies! Toward the end of my pregnancy I became restless and really wanted to see my babies at all cost. This was mainly because the weight of carrying two babies became unbearable for me. I am so glad that I didn’t have this same attitude once they were born. Although I have been very patient and excited for every milestones, I have not rushed the process. I can’t believe I am even writing this 8 months post – but here we are. As hard as the first few months may be, enjoy your baby(ies) as much as possible because they grow up really really fast!

Have an open door policy.

One thing that I wanted to do differently personally was to have an open door policy. I am very guarded and an introvert so the thought of sharing my family with others was daunting but I knew that I couldn’t do it alone especially with two infants. Eight months later, I am so glad I didn’t keep that attitude when the twins were born. Allowing others to help in whatever capacity they could, has truly allowed me to enjoy motherhood without feeling stressed. We’ve been blessed to have people bring us home cooked meals, lots of diapers, offered to watch our kids in our home so I could catch up on some sleep and the list is endless. 

You don’t need 10,000 clothes.

Dear future mama, your kids will outgrow their clothes in 2.5 seconds. Save your coins and buy them only what they needs. Rather than buying tons of clothes for your baby (ies), invest that money into a savings account for them. While we were blessed to have received a LOT of clothes for our babies, they outgrew them rather quickly. My babies have clothes that they’ve only worn once because by the time I got to it, they already outgrew it and some they’ve never worn. So you’re better off getting your children a savings account that you can gift them when they get older than spending top dollars on clothes.

Love Yourself.

As a new mom, it is easy to look at your new mom bod and develop self-hatred towards your body. While I didn’t hate my body after birth, I didn’t particularly love it either. I have been indifferent and rather pressuring myself to quickly recover and get back to my pre-baby weight. I quickly had to stop myself and show myself some love, after all I’ve given life to not one but two human beings. It’s taken almost a year for my body to create life and it’s unfair for me to expect it to get back to normal only a few months after giving birth. So dear mama, love yourself, appreciate your body because through it life was created. 

Motherhood is a journey and everyday I am learning to appreciate everything that comes my way. I hope these five things I’ve learn encourages you to enjoy your own journey as a mom. 

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